Understanding TGirls

Understanding TGirls

Most Transgenderd Girls are in or will be in relationships with a genetic girl. Realizing that being a TGirl is not readily accepted by society is well known by TGirls and this becomes a difficult area when in a relationship, especially when married. The majority of TGirls are married and are not gay. Living with this "secret" is difficult at best, but opening up to a Significant Other (S.O.) is perhaps much more trying. We all want our S.O. to know our feminine side and to accept this part of us, but communicating this to our S.O. can be a positive or negative experience. The discussion has both strengthened and destroyed marriages.

I created this page to not recommend such open discussions with your S.O. and not to discourage it either. It is a personal decision. The articles and resources here will help you if you are considering opening up to your S.O. This page is also a place where you can have your S.O. learn more about the life of a TGirl better. I will continue to add resources here as I find them. If you have any suggestions, please email me at rachelwilliston@yahoo.com . I am here to help if I can.

Here are a few of my own personal thoughts ...

Being a TGirl is not a choice.
TGirls have a feminine side that cannot be denied in the long run.
Tranvestism or Crossdressing is not considered a sexual deviation by the American Psychological Association.
There is no "cure" for being a TGirl and therapy will not stop a TGirl from being a TGirl.
The majority of TGirls are married and are not gay. They love their S.O.
Keeping their feminine side hidden from their S.O. is a difficult thing for a TGirl and is not lying or being dishonest. Not revealing her feminine side is a result of not wanting to lose their S.O. rather than an attempt to have a secret life of some sort.
If a S.O. accepts their partner's feminine side, the relationship will become stronger and happier.

I have made the first of hopefully several movies to hopefully help your significant other understand us TGirls a bit more. Just click the link just below here to open the movie or right click and choose "save target as" if you want to save it to your computer (this option will be quicker).

Here is a great article touching on some of the typical myths about TGirls/Crossdressers. A good start to your reading and learning about us!

Here is a terrific article on how to discuss with your significant other the topic of you being a TGirl. It is a good starting point and also a good article for your S.O. to read as well.

Here is a brief article that will help you understand why he needs to crossdress. Yes, it is a need, not a desire.

There are many definitions involving Transgenderism. Here are a few helpful ones to help you understand your S.O.

Want to know what wives of actual crossdressers think and feel? These letters will help.

Thinking of going out in public with your TGirl S.O.? Some things to think about are in this article.

A common misconception is that TGirls are gay or suffer from some sort of perverted behavior. This article touches on this.

Another myth is that your S.O. being a TGirl and having a feminine side means that he cannot be in love with you anymore. This article discusses love in a relationship with a TGirl.

You know about his crossdressing either by discussion or discovery. Do you still love him?

After asking if your S.O. is gay, the next topic is usually that of trust. Can you still trust him?

Can your S.O. actually look like a woman? Seeing your boyfriend or husband all made up and dressed like a woman can be scary, shocking, delightful, or exciting. Most TGirls do their very best to appear very feminine which includes not just clothing, but also the right wig, make up, walking, and demeanor.